Why should I be upset?

Preface: This article discusses how Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting does not identify as a feminist because she has never faced inequality.

“Is it bad if I say no? It’s not really something I think about,” she mused. “Things are different now, and I know a lot of the work that paved the way for women happened before I was around. … I was never that feminist girl demanding equality, but maybe that’s because I’ve never really faced inequality.”

-Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting, in her interview with Redbook

Kaley goes on to discuss how she cooks dinner for her husband every night and take cares of him. The article claims this has sent feminist on a crazy irate rampage. Well I am here to say, MORE POWER TO YOU KALEY and hey I am a feminist!

Here is the thing: why the fuck should I be mad that a woman shows her love for her husband by taking care of him and cooking him dinner every night? Everyone needs someone to take care of them. If making dinner for her husband every night makes Kaley Cucoco-Sweeting happy and feel whole as a person, more power to her. For me, feminism is choice. It is giving woman (and men) the power to chose and direct their life. (It is also about ending societal oppression and objectification, but that is for another post). People have different ways of expressing their love for their partners. WOMEN have different ways to express their love for their partners. There is no right or wrong way to express true, real love. Whether it be through financial support, surprising them, buying the shoes they have been admiring for weeks, writing a love letter, making them a Pinterest craft, building a house, delivering in bed, or perhaps cooking for them every night.

Side note: Kaley claims she has never faced inequality – as to which I call bullshit, every woman in Hollywood is subject to the virgin-whore dichotomy and objectification. But hey, maybe she just doesn’t pay attention to it. Ignorance may actually be bliss!

Since the interview, she has apologized for not being a feminist, don’t apologize for who you are! – first step of feminism.

Your feminist friend forever,


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